Why being a "good mom" is keeping you stuck

Ever feel like you're doing motherhood by the book—but the book was written by someone who forgot moms are actual humans? This episode hits hard if you’ve been silently following the rules, checking the boxes, and still wondering, “Wait…where did I go?”

Dr. Gertrude Lyons is here to help us unravel those inherited “codes” that say good moms should martyr themselves—and show us how to rewrite them with joy, freedom, and our own damn values.

This episode is your permission slip—and your roadmap—to do just that. I’m joined by the radiant Dr. Gertrude Lyons, clinical psychologist, spiritual guide, and author of Rewrite the Mother Code: From Sacrifice to Stardust. We’re diving deep into the outdated, inherited codes around motherhood that have shaped how we show up—and how to rewrite them from a place of empowerment, joy, and cosmic alignment.

We get into why self-sacrifice is not the gold standard for motherhood (even though it’s been sold to us like it is), how to spot the generational and cultural codes running your mothering, and what it looks like to mother from your own values—not guilt, obligation, or fear.

You’ll hear all about:

• The lie that good mothers put themselves last (and why it doesn’t actually work)
• How to identify the “mother codes” you’ve inherited and rewrite them consciously
• Why pleasure, and fun (and maybe even pickleball!) are crucial to good parenting
• How to create your own “mother code statement” as a daily compass
• Why it’s your responsibility to be the fullest version of you—for yourself and your kids
• The PACT framework: Patience, Affirmation, Compassion, and Trust

Plus, we go deep on generational healing, shame-free reparenting, the wisdom of Lilith, and how to turn guilt into curiosity. If you’ve ever felt judged for parenting differently or questioned whether you’re “doing it right,” this episode is for you. You are allowed—encouraged, even—to do it your way.

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🪐 Grab Gertrude’s book, Rewrite the Mother Code, and follow her @drgertrudelyons or head to drgertrudelyons.com to learn more about her coaching and retreats.

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