Hey babes! In this Coco & Lala episode, Nicole and I are giving you a full holiday intervention. If you're starting to feel the pressure to "do the holidays right," this conversation is here to help you breathe again. We're breaking down how to stop performing, stop people-pleasing, and start enjoying the season in a way that actually feels good.
We dive into three holiday questions that will totally change your season:
1. What dreadful thing are you dropping this year?
You're allowed to stop doing things that drain you. Seriously. I dropped holiday cards and nobody died.
2. What holiday dream are you adding?
It might be taking two weeks off, catering a party, or scheduling guilt-free rest time. Let the question simmer---your dream will come.
3. What manual or expectation are you burning?
People will show up how they've always shown up. Radical acceptance gives YOU back your power.
You'll hear us talk through my negotiation with Brian about hiring someone to put up the Christmas tree, Nicole's shockingly chill approach to holiday obligations, and why setting fewer traditions now can save you years of stress later (looking at you, Elf on the Shelf).
This episode is your permission slip for a calmer, cozier, more intentional season.
You'll learn:
- Why holiday resentment often comes from unspoken expectations
- How dropping ONE dread builds trust with yourself
- Why controlling adults literally never works
- How partners can surprise you if you actually ask
- Why community and accountability make everything easier
- How guilt can be a sign you're doing what's good for you
- Why enjoying a "good season" matters before the shoe inevitably drops
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Tell us in the comments:
What dread are you dropping?
What dream are you adding?
And who are you finally accepting exactly as they are?
